Because what’s the point of running a blog about myself and my dating life if I don’t talk about myself.
Did I mention I’ve picked up two more hobbies?
Hobbies are a helpful for anyone, regardless of mental illness. I frequently joke that I collect hobbies. My latest two being knitting and cross country skiing. I’m trying not to see working on my physical fitness as a hobby, but a life change.
So, the Army Pup is currently in Norway, getting ready to compete in some big army biathlon and, well he’s kind of been acting like a dick. He’s boarding with 10 other guys, which isn’t totally out of the norm, besides the fact he doesn’t have the weekends off and now he has one or two other guys in his room with him. He’s started calling me on speak phone with his mates chirping in every now and he’s upped his cheek, pushing the boundaries of what he can get away with. Aka: He called me on my break and he started asking me if I bleached my asshole…He’s aware of the state of my pubic hair, but he’s just doing it to be ‘funny’. I’m started to feel a little disrespected and I’m not into it.
I called him out on it, he brushes it off as ‘that’s just how Brits are’, but this isn’t the way he’s been over the last five months, I don’t need the lip. He then tells me he wants to send me a Christmas present…
The Biologist, formerly VD, I’ve changed his nickname as we’re still hanging out. Mentioned the same thing. I’m going to be in the UK from December 22-January 13…We’re not dating. Don’t mention Christmas presents! You literally have several free passes several. Don’t make it weird boys.
Also, the Biologist and I had plans to go out for dumplings, he then altered the plans last minute, “Oh, a friend of mine invited me for dinner, he’s American, having a few people over for Thanksgiving.”
He invites me, I like free dinner…and all of his friends are there…I’m opting not to overthink this one
because that’s working.
However, on the drive back to mine, he initiates a deep conversation about relationships. He states he can learn to love anyone that he’s with and make it work, that clearly hasn’t worked in the past so, (from my understanding) he’s trying to be less eager, slow down. He mentions an Uncle that didn’t settle down/find love until he was in his 40’s.
I’m of the mindset that there probably isn’t a one true love because people change so often and you can spend your entire life searching, or you can recognize a great thing when you have it. Obviously don’t settle for good, but if you’re happy, on the path you want to be, then something must be working. Everyone has an idea of what their perfect partner would be like, but, I want someone real. I want someone with flaws. I want someone that challenges me.
I’m pulling this from my tumblr, and I don’t know the original author, but basically:
What is this whole post saying then? About the people I’m choosing to be around, I want them to be a work in progress, just like me. Maybe no one ever really knows what they want in life, but I have goals and I’m going to continue to focus on them because when all else goes to shit, I’ll still have me.